Is lack of sex the main reason for divorce?
Sex is very important in any marriage, in
any country at any time. There is no denial that marriage without
sex is meaningless. Does sexless marriage always hint a divorce?
People are working longer hours and harder
than ever before. This does not limit to men only, more and more
women have full time employment, even after marriages. When both
husband and wife work long hours, the work stress and work
schedule make it hard to have meaningful and loving sex. Often
than not, work schedule for both husband and wife are not
parallel, both do not have the same deadline or the same workload.
When there is lack of contact or lack of spending time alone,
sexual frustration tends to build up. When sexual needs are not
met, either one will feel frustrated.
Another common scenario is when the husband
works and the wife stays at home. The wife gets frustrated with
husband who stays out late after office hour and suspicion sets
in. being at home all the time is boring and frustrating. The wife
might long to socialize like she used to, before the marriage.
Feeling lonely and victimized, the wife punishes the husband by
not having sex with him, even when he requested. Lack of
understanding from both sides and no action taken will worsen the
Another reason is boredom; with so much
going on at work and with the kids, there is no way sex will be
fun if accomplished in such short, scheduled time span. After a
few routines, it became a task, similar with house chores. And
laziness soon set in. Both no longer make efforts.
Sexless marriage doesn't always end in a
divorce. It could be just a phase. Things can be improved. Try
talking things through with your spouse. Try sleeping in on
Sundays, have fun in bed cuddling. Remind each other how much you
love each other. Take a holiday, go for a trip. Many couples renew
their love and feelings for each other after a trip away. There
are hundreds of ways to improve your marriages and it only take a
few minutes in a day if you really take the effort. The point is
not the method, it's the thought that counts.